Friday, September 29, 2006

Can a Man and a Woman Be Friends?

Can a man and a woman (not married to one another) be friends? Not "friendly acquaintances". True FRIENDS.

I'm not seeing it, but I suspect many of you do.


Anonymous Mary said...

I'm glad you clarified by saying "TRUE friends"...because that's the danger. If you're true friends with a man other than your husband then you're setting yourself up to fall hard. True friends implies a relationship in which you talk everyday, sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly with each other. Probably some things are said that shouldn't be.

I think it's better to keep it on the "friendly acquaintances" level. They say affairs usually strike out of friendships, with both parties being sure they were above such stuff. Too risky if you ask me.

And you did! ;O)

8:45 PM  
Blogger The Imperfect Christian said...

I would have to say no to TRUE friendship. I can see FRIENDSHIP being possible in specific situations (like the friend is also married and you are friends with him and also friends with HIS wife and your husband is also friends with them all.) But I don't know about TRUE friends.

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7:24 AM  
Blogger MegLogan said...

no way. Im sure they CAN I am with my husband, but to enter into such a relationship with a man other than my husband would be to commit emotional adultery.

Mrs Meg Logan

9:08 AM  
Anonymous Jess said...

I've heard some women say that they could. But I'll bet those same women would be aghast if their husband decided that they were really good, "true" friends with another woman.

Surely the answer must be no. We can enjoy time with other couples, but we're setting ourselves up for some major falls if it progresses into a man and a woman hanging out as friends, when one or both are married to other people.

My husband and I are convinced that the fact that we are best friends goes a long way in keeping us both faithful!

11:40 AM  
Blogger Rebecca said...

Well said, Jess.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

11:48 AM  
Anonymous Mom said...

Nope! And "true" says it all. Good question to ponder though; it makes you think. Thanks.
I think part of the answer may lie in the amount of time, emotional commitment, honesty, forgiveness, and humility you're willing to invest in each other. True is a two-way street.

12:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

need some advice if i am dealing with this in an immature way. My wife claims to be a good friend to a co-worker . They discuss work and a range of other interests. I do feel very insecure and jeleous sometimes as they meet for dinner sometimes . He is married but i dont hear about the wife from my wife nor do we really socialize as a couple. My wife insists that they are only good friends and that im making a big deal of it. what should i do?

4:28 AM  
Blogger Rebecca said...

I'm not sure what you should do. I know what I'd recommend to your wife: to protect her marriage by not having private meetings with other men. Perhaps you could join them.

8:38 AM  

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